Your phone vibrates on the table and you pick it up. You have a new text message and lo and behold, it happens to be from your ex girlfriend. You ask yourself, "if she broke up with me, why is she still texting me?" These text messages from your ex girlfriend may give you some hope that she is going to say that it was all a big mistake and that she wants you back, but that might not be what they mean at all. You have to realize that just because that is what you want it to mean, that doesn't mean that it actually means that.
Here is how to handle it if your ex girlfriend is still texting you:
1. Don't read too much into it.
This is one of the best things that you can do for yourself. Like I said, it can be confusing when your ex girlfriend is still texting you and you still feel like you love your ex girlfriend. That can give you that false sense of hope and make you assume that it must mean that she wants you back. However, you don't want to read too much into it just yet. Giving yourself false hope when there really is nothing to be hopeful about is not going to make you feel any better.
2. Don't answer her right away.
You don't want your ex girlfriend to think that you are like a puppy on a leash and you'll come whenever she gives you a little tug. You want her to at least think that you have a life without her and that you are not sitting around, hoping that she is going to make contact with you. Even if you only wait an hour or so, just making her wait a little bit is better than responding right away.
3. Be friendly when you do text her back.
You don't want to come across as bitter about the break up, so it is a good thing to text her back in a friendly way. No "what do you want" kind of messages. Just ask her what's up and if she asks about you, just say that you have been kind of busy. Make her think that you are getting on with your life and you know what? Actually do put some effort into getting on with your life.
The reality is that just because your ex girlfriend is sending you text messages, it does not mean that she definitely wants you back. She may want to see if she still has power over you. She may be lonely and knows that you'll be around to make her feel less lonely. Don't read too much into it if your ex girlfriend happens to be sending you text messages because it might not mean a thing. At least, not what you want it to mean.